Saturday, December 28, 2013

Challenge Day 5: Make a List of things you should have learned by now

1. Giving people the benefit of the doubt is not always the right thing to do. Instincts don't lie.
2. Orange is a very weird color and is not my color.
3. Just because Spaghetti Cabonara is nice, does not mean that I should eat that EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to that shop.
4. You will regret the second plate of chicken rice.
5. Just because you can fit it in to your palm does not mean that you can finish it.
6. You will SOMEHOW over turn your water bottle if it's in your bag.
7. It is okay if you don't have a boyfriend. Or a girlfriend. I have no objections.
8. No matter how indescribable things seem to be, you will always find a way to describe it if you pick up a pen.
9. Reading keeps you busy.
10. Learn to slow down and breathe, it's not that hard to say that life is okay when you are taking it minute by minute,
11. Trust your gut feeling. There's a reason why it's there.
12. Glee is therapy.
13. Muay Thai - the rush or blocking, hitting, kicking - is my ecstasy.
14. You may sound good when you're playing air drums on your table with your two index fingers but it's different on the drums.
15. You will always mess up when you try to play something for someone on the guitar.
16. You will never regret doing your laundry early.
17. Loving someone does not mean that you should give up every part of yourself.
18.Writing will always help you, no matter what.
19. You will never sing like Celine Dion or Beyonce.
20.  Vegetables are nice. Except beans. Beans are horrible.

Day 3 of 30 challenge: If you could wish for anything that would come true what would you wish for?

I am not the most superficial kind of person. I don't really want or need anything. Maybe it's cause I'm in a content stage of life at the moment. But anyway, if I could have anything in the world, I would have the whole All Star Converse Collection. I love Converse! I buy myself a new pair for my birthday every year. If I have the All Star Collection, I will be as happy as this guy.


Maybe I'll look much happier than him, HAHA.

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Day 2 of 30 challenge: Who/what can’t you live without? Explain.

Mine is more of a who instead of a what. I mean, things are replaceable, people are not.

1. My family

 I honestly don't know where I will be without them.

My dad reminds me that life is not easy and you have to really work to be and make something of yourself. My dad used to be a pastor and yeah, we had a really hard life. It sucked to be looked down at, to be rejected by your peers and basically to not fit it. I sucked so bad. I used to blame my dad for being a pastor. At some times, I still do but again, I won't take anything back.

I am happy that everything I went through made me a stronger person. I became opinionated, strong-willed, insightful, sympathizing and very very determined in many ways. I love my dad, he is the most hardworking person that I have ever met in my life. My dad is the ultimate definition of survival. I love him.

My mum made me believe that I have a say in things, like my opinion matters, even though she didn't really ask when I was younger. My mum is the definition of tenacity. She fights, she shot across whatever life threw at her like a rocket that was launched towards space. She took everything head on.

My mum is one of the strongest women I have ever met. She used to care about what people think because she had to. When she was given a chance to not give a shit, she really did not give a shit. It was amazing to see it but it kinda killed me to see people being mean to her. It was a thing at her workplace, another long story. My mum loves my brothers and I. She would kill anyone who hurt us. I can see that and I wished I saw it sooner.

My brothers: Aaron and Joshua.













Aaron, he turned 18 just 10 days ago. He is my best friend and he's lame. He knows what I like and what I hate. I know him also. I know how he is. I know almost everything about him. I know his habits and his tactics when it comes to annoying me. He is very sensitive, he tends to not want to bother people unnecessarily. He stands his ground but compromises when he needs to. We used to fight A LOT. Now we're very close. When I was younger, I used to wish that he would die. Now I regret it, heh. I was such a horrible sister to him. I regret everything.

He loves me, no, he doesn't say it. Our family is not the type that announces "I LOVE YOU", we show it. For example, he would call me if I wasn't back home by 1am. When I asked why, he said that he's afraid that I was in trouble and couldn't call. I love him, I would do anything for him. I am teaching what is right and wrong slowly because he won't listen to my parents. At least though, he listens to me. My proudest moment as his sister is when his best friend asked me questions about him and I could answer every single one like a reflex.

Joshua, he is just a bowl of sunshine and laughter mixed together with very very mature and sharp senses. he is 8 and being in a family where everyone is literally above 18, makes him literally the baby. He is very independent and linguistic for his age. He talks like an adult and I secretly think that he is an old soul. He is very lame, he got that from his older brother. He is the only expressive one in the family because he was given the opportunity to. He loves me and he shows it. He counts down to the day that I come home from university.

It's a different relationship with him when compared to the older one because this is a kid. I watched him grow up, instead of growing up with him. He is a sensitive boy and might come off as a pushover because he doesn't like conflicts and tends to just compromise. I will teach him to stand his ground and not be a pushover. I will teach him how to treat girls and how to love. I will teach him everything that I have learn in the last 20 years of my life. I will teach him to appreciate the art of language and words. I will teach him that life is a masterpiece waiting to happen, even in times of pain and troubles.

2. My best friend, Francine.
She is surprisingly the only one who is ever honest with me. She is the only who picked up whenever I called at times that I was breaking down. She is the one that I can sit in silence with and it's not awkward. I can talk to her about anything. She showed me what friends are really for and what it mean to be a friend to someone. She showed me how to laugh, how to smile, how to look for the little things in life, how to be strong and how to keep going. She gave me strength. I doubt her sometimes because my mind is never in the right state for anything, hence, the cutting. Even when I doubt her, I still had the faith and the hope to trust her and to believe in her, it IS something because usually I just push people away.

She is the first person that I can have proper conversations about sex with. She makes me laugh, she understands my lame sense of humor. She gets me and it's amazing to have that. I love how I smile when I'm around her. I love how I am me when I am with her. She's a stupid motherfucker and I mean it in the most loving way. She is like a sister that I never had. She is like level 1 if I ever get a boyfriend. She will be the first person I talk to if there is anything major happening in my life. She is part of my everything. I love her, I know she will never read this so she doesn't know how much I am really grateful to have ever met her and how much I love her. Like, I will kill anyone that hurts her. I can write an autobiography about her like I would my family, but I won't. Not now.

Day 1 of 30 challenge: What do you regret the most?

This will be something personal to me and I will skim through it.

I regret cutting. I regret starting. I just regret it. If I could go back, I would tell my 14 year old self that everything will be okay and I turned out awesome. Then again, I survived so long because of cutting. I am not sure how I will turn out.. I regret it but I don't think I would change it if I could. It has become a huge part of my past and it shaped me into who I am today and I am pretty proud of how I turned out.

Regretting and wanting to change it is different. I guess, I made peace with this mistake that I have completely accepted it.

No, I wouldn't change it. I don't know who or where I am without these scars etched on my body.

30 day challenge

Obviously, I love challenges. So, I will finish this until I don't feel like typing. I won't follow the days though or I'll be lazy.

Day 1: What do you regret the most?
Day 2: Who/what can’t you live without? Explain.
Day  3: If you could wish for anything that would come true, what would you wish for?
Day 4: What is true love?
Day 5: What’s the point of life? Define a great life.
Day 6: What is your phobia/fear?
Day 7: What does your name mean? Why were you named what you were named?
Day 8: Have you ever had your heart broken? Have you ever broken a heart?
Day 9: What do you like the most about yourself? (physically and emotionally)
Day 10: What do you dislike the most about yourself? (physically and emotionally)
Day 11: Are you a lover or a fighter?
Day 12: What would you say your biggest fear is when it comes to relationships?
Day 13: If you could change one thing about yourself, what would you change and why?
Day 14: What are features you get complimented on a lot?
Day 15: What’s something you wish you could say to that someone?
Day 16: If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
Day 17: Choose: trust or love
Day 18: What’s your passion?
Day 19: Write a letter to yourself stating all the things you love about yourself.
Day 20: Does love = sex?
Day 21: Your best friend just died. What’s your reaction?
Day 22: Whom do you admire the most?
Day 23: What is your goal in life?
Day 24: What gives you sincere happiness?
Day 25: What are the 10 most significant events in your life?
Day 26: When were the happiest days in your life?
Day 27: What is the one problem, challenge, or issue your were born to address?
Day 28: If you died tomorrow, what’s one thing you’d regret not doing?
Day 29: If you died tomorrow, would you want anyone to know something?
Day 30: Who are you?

Challenge Day 4: Make a List of things you no longer believe

I no longer believe in a lot of things.. I shall make it short and TRY not to elaborate.

1. Good things comes to those who wait.
2. Dentist who say "it won't hurt".
3. "your food will be here in 15 minutes"
4. "Dinner is ready".
5. Time heals all wounds.
6. God will help if you just pray. I have to explain this, God wants you to pray AND work for it. It's in the bible. Look it up.
7. "I'll always be here for you".
8. Being hardworking will get you to places.
9. "I love you".
10. "I'm sorry, I didn't see your message/get your call".
11. Toilet doors that say "occupied".
12. Words don't hurt you. YES, MOTHERFUCKER. YES, THEY DO!
13. "I'm sorry, I'm busy".
14. Fairy tales
15. Love will bring out the best in you. They forgot to mention that it makes you do crazy things too.
16. Love will conquer everything. Sure, bills get paid because you looooooove each other. Sure.
17. "Everything will be okay."
18. I will be okay.
19. "I need you in my life."
20. "I love you."

Friday, December 20, 2013

tumblr musings #10

Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another or you’re in love or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. I don’t know if that makes me believe in coincidence, or fate, or sheer blind luck, but it definitely makes me believe in something.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Love, unconditional.

There are all sorts of love in this world. The one that I'll focus on now is the unconditional kind, the kind that will always make you care no matter what. It's the kind that you know will never change, just the way you show it.

It is mature but knowing when to laugh at the childish stuff. It is protective but trusting them enough to let them venture out. It is not forceful but you know when to talk senses into them when they make a decision. It is observant but you step in when you need to. It is just loving the person no matter what happens between you two. It is wanting the best for each other, always being there no matter what and just trusting that they won't ever leave you. The most important thing is that they are happy, no matter what. It is a big bet and a big risk, it will hurt at some point but it takes a few cracks while using time as a catalyst to make it stronger.

You can't learn how to love people unconditionally. There is no complete checklists. There are certain traits to it but things and circumstances change so it's not absolute but I assure you that you WILL know when you love someone unconditionally because you feel it.

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I saw you laughing with them. You were so happy. My eyes lingered on you, I know I will pay for it later which is what I am currently doing. You looked beautiful, big smiles and all. It was a nice scene to witness. I gave myself a small smile. Yep, definitely feel it coming. It was worth it, I guess. 

And I looked away.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

tumblr musings #9

Sometimes I feel like I’m not solid. I’m hollow. There’s nothing behind my eyes. I’m a negative of a person. All I want is blackness, blackness and silence

tumblr musings #8

I guess I’m pretty much of a lone wolf. I don’t say I don’t like people at all, but, to tell you the truth, I only like it then if I have a chance to look deep into their hearts and their minds

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Random quiz, my favorite :) Ignore the numbers, I copied it from tumblr.

Personal
1-How are you? 
I am very good

2-Post a picture of yourself.











3-Do you ever wish you were someone else? 
When I was younger, yes but now, no.

4-What is your entire name?
Tryphena Chin Xiao Huey

5-How old are you?
20

6-Age you get mistaken for:
Never really mistaken, I look like my age

7-Your zodiac/horoscope and if you think it fits your personality:
Taurus is my original one, I am like Taurus

8-What did you do on your last birthday?
I went rock climbing

9-What is one thing you would like to accomplish before your next birthday?
Lose like 10-20 pounds

10-What is your hair color?
At the moment dark brown with maroon highlights

11-Have you ever dyed your hair?
Yup, that's why I have maroon highlights

12-What is your eye color?
Close to black but not black

13-If you could change your eye color, would you?
Greyish-green

14-Do you wear contacts/glasses?
Yes to both

18-Do you have any tattoos?
Nope

19-Do you have any piercings?
Yeah, but they closed up

20-Left or right handed?
Right

21-What’s your sexual orientation?
Don't really believe in labels

22-Do you drink?
Yeah, socially

23-Do you smoke?
Yeah, socially

24-Do you have any pets?
My baby, Chowder. He's a dog :)

25-Where do you work?
At a grocery store at where I live

26-Something you are working on right now:
Yeah, me

27-Do you have any “rules” about food?
If you like it, eat.

28-Where are you from?
Sabah yo!

29-What would you say is your best quality?
I am loyal

30-What do you think you’re really good at?
Talking and eating

31-What do you think you’re really bad at?
Planting and whistling

33-Are you a bad person?
I would like to think that I am sometimes

34-Are you nice to everyone?
Usually

36-Has someone ever spread a nasty rumor about you?
yep!

37-What is your ideal bed? Why?
Something bigger than a single bed with a lot of fluffy pillows and nice soft blankets. Then I can make a fort

38-Did you wake up cranky?
Not all the time, depends on the day

39-Do you sleep with a stuffed toy?
Yes, Wobbly!

40-What do you think about the most?
When do I get to eat? What to eat?

42-What you want to be when you “get older”?
TV Host, interviewer, somewhere along that lines

43-What are your career goals?
I just want do to what I like

44-What is your ideal career?
Ellen Degeneres' job and Oprah (but she finished her show)

45-Is your life anything like it was two years ago?
Nope, I was happier but then again, I don't regret where I am now

46-Do you replay things that have happened in your head?
All the time

47-Have you ever had an imaginary friend?
nay

48-Say 10 facts about your room:
I have quotes and lyrics painted on my walls. I have a double decker. My little brother stays in my room while I'm away. I have wooden looking floors. I have tiled floors on the other side of my room. It's air-conditioned. It really should have a fan in it. I love my room, it's my refuge. I have guitars in my room. I also have my first radio that I bought with my own money back when I was 12.

49-Do you have any phobias?
heights and snakes

50-Have you ever been to a psychiatrist/therapist?
Yeah, I am currently seeing one

51-Are you allergic to anything? If so, what?
Nay

52-Ever broken any bones?
Nope

53-Ever come close to death?
Nope

60-Do you have a facebook? If so, would you add the person who sent you this?
Yes and I found it so I dont have to answer that LOL

61-Do you have any pictures on your Facebook?
yes

62-Describe yourself in one word/sentence:
grounded

63-A quote you try to live by:
People love differently, just because they don't love you the same way that you love, doesn't mean that they don't love you.

64-A famous person you’ve been compared to:
None, actually. I would be like Jennifer Lawrence maybe

65-Weird things you do when you’re alone:
I don't talk and when I do, I scare myself

66-Something you do without realising:
I run my fingers through my hair so much that I think I'm going to go bald from it

68-Someone you’d like to be for a day and why:
My best friend, I need answers.

69-Leave me a compliment:
Hi, you're beautiful today!

Favorites

70-What is your favorite thing to do?
Eat, chill with people, film stuff

71-What’s your favorite color?
Forever and always, blue

73-What’s your favorite movie?
Perks of being a wallflower and Alice in Wonderland

74-What are your favorite books?
Harry Potter series, Perks of Being a Wallflower, Diary of Anne Frank

75-What is your favorite quote and why?
We accept the love we think we deserve, because of experience

76-What is your favorite word?
lovely

77-What is your least favorite word?
fine

78-What is your favorite type of food?
I eat almost everything but I love chicken enough to say that it stands out

79-You favorite ice cream?
Vanilla 

80-What’s your favorite animal?
Dogs, foxes

81-Dogs or cats?
Dogs

82-Describe your favorite texture:
That texture that be felt on very smooth skin, like it's very smooth but you know that there's really fine hair there

83-What is your favorite flower?
Don't like flowers so it doesn't matter

84-What’s your favourite scent? And on the opposite sex?
That shampoo smell, not a perfume or cologne type. Doesn't matter

85-What is your favorite season?
I have only experienced summer but I'll say summer

86-What are the top five places you wish you could go before you die?
New York, Los Angeles, Barcelona, Sydney and Rome

87-What are four things you can’t live without and why?
Food, because I will die.. and I love it too much to ever give it up.
My laptop, there's so much you cannot do without one
Books, I love to read
Pen, there's that satisfying feeling or writing something down

88-Which mythological creature are you most like? Why?
Not into mythological creatures..

89-What’s your favorite television show?
Glee

90-Favorite place to shop at?
Don't have a preferred place. I am of limited wealth and my body type doesn't help

91-Say 2 facts about your favorite things:
My guitar reminds me that music isn't only about singing. A pen reminds me that I am in control of words and where it goes.

Friends

106-Would you ever smile at a stranger?
yes, I have done it a lot of times

107-Do you prefer to be friends with girls or boys?
No preferences but it would be nice to have a balance

108-Who is someone you never tire of?
Francine, so far she's the only one

109-Do you have someone you can be your complete self around?
Francine, Ling Jin and Harman. Funny how some names just appear and some just stay on

110-Who is your most loyal friend?
Ling Jin

111-Is there anyone you can tell EVERYTHING to?
Yes

112-If your best friend died, what would you do?
I wouldn't want to imagine, I would die too

113-Something you’ve lied about.
A lot of things

114-Have you ever felt replaced?
Yes

115-Say 5 facts about your bestfriend(s):
She loves purples. She loves raves but she likes to read. She's like Belle with a strong sense of real adventure. She loves cats and she's like one too. I think I am losing her, I think it's just me but it seems like she doesn't need me anymore.

Relationships

116-The last person you hugged?
Liyana

117-Story of your first kiss?
LOL, it scared me and I didn't expect it

118-Do you like kissing in public?
I don't mind

119-Have you ever kissed someone older than you?
LOL yes

120-You have a preference for boys or girls?
They are both fine but girls smell so much better

121-Is the male or female body closest to perfection?
Female for sho!

127-What is the first thing you noticed in someone?
Their smile

128-Are looks important in a relationship?
To me, they are not

129-What’s the most superficial characteristic you look for?
Straight teeth

130-What’s your opinion on age differences in relationships?
I prefer someone older but not more than 3 years

131-Would you ever date someone off of the Internet?
Yeah

133-Do you have a crush on anyone?
Yes

134-A description of the girl/boy you like:
He's a gentleman, he is intelligent, he is literally everything I want in a guy

135-Say 1 fact about the person you like:
Gentleman

136-If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?
You like her right? Go after her

137-When was the last time you told someone you loved them?
I said that a lot of times but to mean it when I say it, it's quite some time ago

138-Do you think someone has feelings for you?
I don't know

139-Do you think someone is thinking about you right now?
My little brother maybe

140-Have you ever cried over a guy/girl?
Yes

141-Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have?
Yes, still a painful memory

142-Anyone you’re giving up on?
Yep, gave up already

143-Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to?
Yeahh

144-Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?
HAHAHAHAH everyone had something against my first boyfriend

145-Have you ever liked one of your best friends?
My first boyfriend was one

146-Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you?
yes but I didn't know if they meant it

147-Is there a boy/girl who you would do absolutely everything for?
yes

148-Is there someone you will never forget?
yes

153-What’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for you?
They sent me a card for my birthday and I didn't expect them to remember

154-What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you?
He bought me jellybeans which I haven't eaten, gave me sweets and a plush koala bear

157-Are you in love?
I wouldn't say that I am

158-Are you in a relationship?
Nope

159-If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, what is your favorite thing about him/her?
skip

160-Are relationships ever worth it?
depends, for me, it depends

161-Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are?
I don't know

162-Can you commit to one person?
yes, it's my best quality

163-Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat?
HAHAHAHA yes 

164-Do you ever want to get married?
yes

165-Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years?
Don't know

167-Do you get jealous easily?
Not sure

168-The last time you felt jealous, and why?
because I used to be important

169-What is your definition of cheating?
When you have to delete messages to avoid your SO from seeing them, you're on the way there

170-Have you ever been cheated on?
no

171-Do you forgive betrayal?
Not usually

172-Have you ever cheated on someone?
Nay

173-Why did your last relationship fail?
because of trust issues and I was young and foolish

174-Things you want to say to an ex:
We clarified a lot of things when we last talked. 

175-A description of the person you dislike the most:
I don't particularly dislike anyone 

176-If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept?
If I still love them, yes

177-How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?
I have had two boyfriend before

178-How long was your longest relationship?
5 years on and off

179-You’ll love me if…
I change..?

180-Share a relationship story:
My first boyfriend used to cook for me. He was my best friend. He made me laugh, made me smile. he wasn't the best but he was good enough for me. When it ended, I was so angry at him for so many things. When I talked to him recently, the three hours were used to travel down memory lane where we relieve old jokes and laughs. Then, he told me he really loved me when he dated me and I have always thought that he was playing me all these time after. It was a better "I hope you have a good life" after the talk. I will always have a best friend in him.

Music, movies and books

181-How often do you listen to music?
Whenever I feel like it

182-What kind of music you like?
Acoustic, bands

183-Do you like to dance?
yeah, I enjoy it

185-Have you heard a song that reminds you of someone today?
yes

186-Share a song that takes you to a certain memory in the past:
Leave Out All The Rest - Linkin Park

187-A song that’s been stuck in your head:
It's been peaceful in my head lately

188-Put your music player on shuffle and write the first ten songs that play:
6 Months - Hey Monday
Give Love a Try - Jonas Brothers
Body Count - Justin Timberlake
Hold It Against Me - Britney Spears
Without You - Usher and David Guetta
How to be a Heart breaker - Glee Cover
Apologize - One Republic
Firework - Katy Perry
The Little Things - Colbie Calliat
Runnin' Around - Colbie Calliat

189-A book you want to read/have recently read:
I don't have the mood to read yet

190-Describe your dream library:
Non-fiction, autobiographies, fiction

191-Last movie you just watched:
But I'm a Cheerleader

192- what type of movies do you like watching?
"Based on true story", realistic, non-action movies, comedies

Situations and crazy things

193-You’re in a tattoo parlor about to get inked. What are you getting done?
my wrist

194-What’s something you can see yourself going to jail for?
Killing someone accidentally

195-If you could be any character, from any literary work, who would you choose to be?
Peter Pan

196-You’re given $10,000…under one condition: you cannot keep the money for yourself. Who would you give it to?
My Parents

197-If you had to go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?
The way I reacted to thins

198-If you were an element on the Periodic Table, which would you be and why?
Potassium, it would be so easy to reply people with a K.

199-If you had to delete one year of your life completely, which would it be?
year 2012

200-You’re an Action Movie Hero. What’s your weapon of choice and the line you scream when defeating your arch enemy?
Big ass sword, "We fight!"

201-If you could design an amusement park ride, what would it be like?
Lots of rollercoasters and race tracks with a lot of water rides

202-What is the first curse word that comes to mind?
fuck

203-What the last party you went to was… and when the next will be…
Wow... I don't remember going to a party.. That's sad

204-Halloween costume idea?
Zombie, Peter Pan or Mulan

205-How you’d spend ten thousand bucks?
Go shopping with my family

206-Press ctrl+v and post:
https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn2/971611_10151464977507781_29028348_n.jpg

207-Would you rather be stranded on a desert island with someone you love for ten years or someone you hate for a month? Explain why.
Someone that I love, then it'll be like a very very long date

208-5 things within touching distance:
Mouse, speakers, contact lens liquid, Apollo strawberry layer cakes, room key

209-A drunken story:
Almost went further than intended with one of my close friends who is a girl

210-What are you supposed to be doing right now?
Nothing, exams are over

211-Currently wanting to see anyone?
I would love to

212-Why you follow me?
who are you?

213-If you met me what would you do?
I am sure you are nice, I'll talk

214-Leave me a ridiculous question:
Do you wash your underwear yourself?

215-Leave me a cute message:
Hi lovely, hope your day was well